[Deb’s Diary] Personal Note from Deb: “You don’t need that pizza!”


Today I’d like to take a moment to NOT talk about business and social media.

Instead, I’d like to share a moment with you from this past month that has made a big impact on me. I hope in sharing these mini stories from my personal life, that you’ll also take moments away from business to think about what gives your life meaning, and what inspires you to do great things in your business and your personal life to make a greater impact on the people and the world around you.


It started off a typical day. I was prepping to jet to the gym with my workout buddy and lift weights at 24 Hour Fitness, taking one of my favorite classes: Body Pump. It’s a structured weight lifting class set to cool music (typically) so you get your Cardio burn along with your muscle building.

Then, it took a sad turn… Perhaps disappointing is the more appropriate emotion.

You see, I did something stupid. Ya’ know the thing you know you’re NOT supposed to do… but can’t resist the urge to do it anyway?

After a month of being consistent with my workouts, from weight lifting classes to pilates to participating in a boot camp program, I was feeling great and seeing the positive results in my waistline and abs, so I was looking forward to seeing how much weight I had lost.

Confident I lost at least 5 lbs, I decided to meet my buddy in the class after I took a pitstop on the scale.

BIG mistake.

My smile quickly turned to dismay as I saw the scale didn’t budge. Not a pound from when I started my fitness routine. Whaaaa??? This seemed impossible! SonOfa… I thought to myself as I slowly made my way to class where my smiling friend was waiting, stretching by his weights.

Starting off your workout in a bad mood is never a good way to start the class, much less your day. But I was committed to pressing forward to lose the 15lbs I put on during my summer in Texas. (I know, weird, this is usually the season you take it off, not hide in the AC to avoid the heat.)

Well it seemed the forces were not with me this morning, because the first song our instructor decided to play during our squat routine… was THE saddest breakup song in the history of breakup songs by Adele. In fact, if you google Top 10 Breakup songs, you’ll find Adele is right there at #4.


Needless to say, I lost my momentum, my will power, my energy in those 3 minutes of torture, thinking how I’m just not getting the results I want, and my head was getting filled with additional sad thoughts that this song stirs up in you if you’ve ever gone through a heart breaking experience in your life — like the loss of your best friend for almost 20 years.
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My thoughts took a downward spiral, thinking of my recent divorce, and saying goodbye to the man who called me his best friend for the past 2 decades. I counted how many Sunday brunches we shared (#780), how many trips on the bike we made through the Pennsylvania mountains, and all the trials and struggles we overcame to grow our business and real estate empire to a level of success we were both pleased with; giving us an amazing life in Hawaii, with our home overlooking the Pacific Ocean. Realizing another girl simply stepped into my old life as soon as our relationship ended, and was playing with the dogs we raised since they were puppies, and living in one of our old flips with my dogs became almost unbearable. Surreal thoughts and I knew I had to snap out of it for my own sanity and just get back to working out.


Let’s just say, Adele was NOT helping.

Luckily, I was working out with my buddy Ori Bengal, one of the funniest, quirkiest friends in Austin, and he quickly flipped my mood, laughing at his “That’s what she said” antics, making inappropriate jokes just as the blasting music came to a screeching halt. DOH!

Thank God for funny friends, eh? Ori was my Life Saver that morning.

But later that night is when a major transformational shift in my thought process occurred. It was after the Internet Marketing Party when a few of us left to grab a slice of pizza at the famous Roppolo’s across the street from SIX Lounge where the party was held.

Knowing I certainly shouldn’t be eating pizza… especially this late at night… but also feeling like it just didn’t matter either way what I did, because the scale wasn’t moving one way or another, I figured, what the heck, I’ll break bread with my friends and have a slice.

After slight confusion over the pizza order, each person getting theirs a few minutes apart, I noticed in the corner of my eye a friend of mine handing his slice to a couple who asked if he would buy them some food. He didn’t hesitate, blink or debate, he just handed over his slice (even though I knew how hungry he was) to this couple who asked. We’ll call this couple Mr. & Mrs. Valencia.


I was so moved by this random act because he didn’t hesitate. He saw a couple who was hungry and just followed his instincts and handed his pizza to them. That’s when I decided this was the perfect time to give up my pizza to my friend who just demonstrated such compassion, (and since I really didn’t need it anyway, right?)

Then I just shared a few bites with my friend as “Mr. & Mrs. Valencia” sat across from us at the picnic table enjoying their pizza. As we chatted with this couple, it was obvious they knew more about the world we live in than most people who just wander around not thinking, to and from their jobs.

This couple had a genuineness about them and such sweet spirits, as they were getting through one of the toughest times in their lives, begging for their next meal, yet keeping their dignity in tact. I thought, wow, they really love each other, and they have nothing. Nothing but what’s real and lasting in this life. True, enduring love for each other… and for life. They were so pleasant to talk with, that suddenly I was no longer aware of my own sadness, or even my surroundings.

All of a sudden, there was a transcendent moment I would never forget. I was imagining being with Mr. & Mrs. Valencia all dressed up in a Tux and an evening gown at a 5-star banquet party, as we all shared stories and laughed around the round table. And I wondered… how many people that pass this couple on a daily basis on the streets of Austin, Texas even realize how special and sweet this couple was… or if they simply judged them and ignored them because of their circumstances?

Let’s just say, having dinner with Mr. & Mrs. Valencia transformed my entire day. My perspective on life shifted, and I realized just how good life was and how good I had it. The next day, I sat at my desk in my hi-rise apt, and started writing this post.

Looking out the windows at the Capitol building and all the other tall buildings buzzing with activity from the people inside them, I wondered how many people were just existing… instead of truly living and pursuing their passion in life? How many of them were grateful for the food on their plate and the air conditioning that kept them comfortable in the blazing, Texas heat?

I’m also happy to report (as I come back to this blog a few weeks later… debating if I’d ever share it with my readers in such a public forum)… that the scale finally DID move!

This whole experience got me thinking about how this weight loss process relates to business growth. It’s seasonal. You plant in one season, and reap in another. Patience is required, and the ability to keep pressing forward — even when you’re working harder than ever, and not seeing immediate results. Trust me… results will come. In due time.


The scale WILL Move… you just need to keep on doing the things that will get you the results you want. In time, you’ll see the transformation you are working for.

In the meantime, take a look around you and count all the different things you’re grateful for. Knowing you’ve got an awesome life and it’s only getting better and better! The only thing that sometimes stands in our way of getting everything we want… is time.

I hope my personal story has touched you in some way… whether you’re going through a challenging time yourself, or know someone who is. Or perhaps you’ve got your own story that will encourage someone going through a tough time.

If either of the above hits home for you — please share your thoughts in the comments below.

I love hearing who’s actually reading my new personal diary entries, now that I decided to be a little more transparent with my friends and clients who read my blog on a regular basis for the social media tips I share here.

So tell me what you think. Or share a goal you’re working for, so the community will help hold you accountable. Leave you comment below…

[Deb’s Diary] Just a Dog?

“Now, I want you to pay particular attention to the teeth.”

Finding Neverland is one of my Top Ten Fantasy Movies of all time. Providing an alternate perspective behind the Peter Pan story, Johnny Depp does not disappoint in his role as the writer of the Peter Pan story.

Finding Neverland gives you a “behind the story” look at how the masterpiece “Peter Pan” was written and the people who inspired it. Not to mention providing a dramatic story and tissue box ending.

But more than that, this movie is an inspirational catalyst for entrepreneurs everywhere. It’s our imagination that drives our companies. CEO’s are charged with providing the Vision that’s bigger than the minutia of the million details involved in running a company.

This clip inspires so many, many, many thoughts in me about ideas, imagination, inspiration, and the people behind great companies, and the million dollar ideas that are spawned from letting our imagination run wild. Not to mention the metaphor between Peter and those around you who merely serve as the Candle-Snuffers in your life.

Watch this 1:50sec Clip from Finding Neverland
(Then tell me what thoughts it inspires in you in the comment box below.)


“This is absurd. He’s Just a Dog.”

“JUST a Dog??? Porthos dreams of being a bear, and you want to dash those dreams by saying he’s “JUST a Dog?”

What eyes do you see your world with?

Do you use “Candle-Snuffing Words” to dismiss possibilities?

Are you like the cynic, Peter who only sees “what is” verses what might be?

Or do you see a Diamond when everyone else sees “just a rock”?

Typically the greatest challenge an entrepreneur has in her life is combating the negative energy that’s thrown at her by those closest to her.

Henry Ford said. “Whether you think you can or think you can’t… you’re right.” In other words, if you think you can’t, you’ll stop yourself from seeing any further than to see what’s directly in front of you. You’ll stop pushing forward in a visionary direction. But that’s not how Disney World was built, was it? Walt Disney saw what others couldn’t see… until they did, because he created it.

We create our paths in life. Each and every thought we have leads us to make a specific decision which will bring us in one direction or another. The only real question to ask yourself is, “What Direction do I want to head?”

Who are the people in your life who try to dash your dreams? Perhaps you dream of being a famous actor… perhaps a best-selling author… or sought after musician. Maybe you have been dreaming of opening up your own business, building an empire full of great people doing great things. But perhaps you also have doubts that your diamonds are “just rocks”.


In my next diary post, I’ll draw inspiration from another favorite Johnny Depp movie of mine, “Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory” to address “Global Beliefs” lovingly shared by those closest to us in our lives to keep us from pursuing who we were destined to become.

In the meantime, I want to hear your dreams. Your Diamonds. Your Dancing Bears. In the comment box below.

Recently I had a consult session with someone who wanted to start her own Virtual Assistant Agency, but wasn’t sure if her skills alone would help her make this dream a reality. One of the pieces of coaching I gave her was to tell as many people as possible and let them know the new business she was going to start. Within one week of her sharing her dreams with me, she had her first client! And all it required of her was to start telling her friends what she wanted to do!

Now it’s time for you to do the same. Will you share your goals with me (and my readers) in the comment box below? Who knows where this simple decision of yours will lead…

Until next time…


[Deb’s Diary] Deb’s Diary

My heart is pounding. The elevator bell goes off and I scramble out, free at last. My worst fears of being trapped on an elevator with a creepy guy and two small dogs that need more of my protection than they serve as my protector. I push past the two guys waiting to get on the elevator, mumbling an apology, to which they seem to instantly understand when they take one look one at the shirtless guy who wreaked of the smell of beer, leaning up against the corner in the elevator who wasn’t getting out any time soon.mask_1

Okay, wait a minute, this is NOT the kind of Diary that you’ll be reading here on my blog. You’re not going to find Fifty Shades of Grey entries here.

But if it got your heart racing just a bit, then that’s good! Because that’s what I aim to do here by adding my personal stories from my life along with my business blog focusing on Social Media for Business.

Sometimes it’s the things that happen in our personal lives that give us motivation to keep on getting up in our professional lives and keep on going. (POINTS for Movie reference.) That’s why I decided to add this unique “Diary” category to my business blog that will truly be all about the Brand that is Coach Deb.

Oh, and I did actually have a creepy experience in an elevator recently, after getting stuck on the 13th floor two days in a row. On this particular day, all I could do was pray the elevator would keep going down 20 floors very quickly so I could get both myself and my doggies out to safety.

This video was recently shared on my friend’s wall on Facebook that inspired me! What a girl! You’ve gotta see how she takes care of her assailant in this 11 second video:

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Am I taking a Risk with the Deb’s Diary addition?

So here is my dilemma in whether I want to add this feature to this new blog of mine.

I’ve been coaching business owners on how to start their own business blog for over a decade. And typically the advice given to a business owner as she gets started is to keep her blogs focused on one topic. This is good for keyword search as well as keeping people focused on one thing when they come to your blog.

That “rule” had me and my partner start dozens (if not hundreds) of blogs each solely focused on one topic. The strategy worked ridiculously well, and we stuck to this rule religiously. Until now.

CoachDeb.TV is my newest blog, focused on “Branding Coach Deb” for companies who want to learn from me, hire me to train their team on how to use social media, or have me give a keynote speech on social media for business.

So the bulk of the articles you’ll find here, will be focused on Social Media for Business.

But not this category series.

Since I didn’t want to maintain a dozen separate blogs focused on all the different things I do, speak on or am involved with, I decided to take a risk. By blending in a few personal stories unrelated to social media or business, I’ll be sharing a little bit about who I am and what makes me tick from time to time in between social media article series.

Plus, here’s how I feel about mixing business with pleasure.

(aka sharing personal stories from my life)

Too often, we get caught up in “the business” of things and completely neglect our personal needs. And for my partner and I, this neglect cost us our relationship. We got so caught up in building our empire, growing our personal net worth and investing in real estate, that we neglected the proper care and feeding of one another.

Painful lessons often serve as the best teachers. Because we will do anything to avoid a repeat of that pattern. That’s why I’m doing things a little differently now that I’m single and running the show.

Am I making a mistake? Well… you tell me. I guess only time will tell. Or you will!

After all, since this is a blog, YOU get to give me your two cents on how you feel about me taking this risk by commenting on this post below.

In the meantime, I’ll categorize these posts separately into “Deb’s Diary” so you can follow along with my personal journey as I travel around the world, speaking, living, working, and having a grand adventure — all on this blog. (Or, you can simply ignore these posts, and just stick to the business of social media.

Fair enough?

(BTW: you get to answer that question — and any other question — in the comment box below. I’m an extravert, so the more feedback and interaction you give me, the more motivated I’ll be to continue sharing my personal life on this blog.

And when you share your comments on my business articles, that will give me feedback on the topics to focus more on for your business.

So what are some of the things I’ll be sharing in this Deb’s Diary Category on my new blog? More than likely, things from my every day life/journey… such as:deb-frenchies-small

  • Racing cars (What I want to do when I grow up)
  • Lessons from my Tennis Matches (My favorite sport in the whole wide world!)
  • Travel Adventures (When I speak in different countries)
  • Beach pictures and inspiration (My favorite place to be to rejuvenate)
  • The Randomness that is My Life.

Ok! Onward to my Journey… that I call… LIFE uninterupted. oh wait. darn. that’s a movie. okay then… what shall we call this journey?

P.S.: I do have a motivational blog that I’ve been adding to for almost 5 years since living in Hawaii (thus the header) so if you’re wanting daily inspirational quick quotes or pictures, feel free to subscribe to that blog that’s focused ONLY on one minute motivation (with a few 7-8 minute TED Talks or inspirational videos I can’t help but share with you!)

Otherwise, hang out here for a while, and please — talk back! Give me your two cents in the comment box below!


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